[Bigi] Re: Coming Out

[Thomas Leavitt]

Hmm... coming out for me was non-traumatic. It was actually one of those 
moments where everything comes together, and suddenly a whole bunch of 
things which never made sense before, now do. Basically, I was sitting 
upside down on a Greyhound bus (man, those things are evil, impossible to 
get comfortable in) on my way out to Missouri, thinking back to various 
events in my life, when the thought floated up out of my sub-conscious: 
"You're bi-sexual." I was startled, for a moment, examined the thought, 
turned it around, reflected on my life to date, said, "Damn, now so many 
things suddenly make sense!" and I was done.

Basically, it provided an explanation for a huge number of events and 
feelings I'd had all through junior and high school (I was eighteen, and had 
just graduated high school two weeks before). This included crushes on both 
genders, harassment and fights, etc. and a statistically high percentage of 
queer people in significant roles in my life... I suspect a lot of people 
recognized I was queer before I did.

Once I'd figured out I was bi, coming out was pretty simple - I just told 
people. Never got any static. Never had any fear. Helps that my immediate 
family has no issues with it, and my parents have always had a ton of queer 
friends (through work, church, and social activities). My first 
"relationship" was with a guy, in fact. I'm out to everyone in my life but a 
small fraction of my family that lives in the rural MidWest, including all 
my co-workers at companies past and present.

Anyway, I regard being bi (and poly) as a bonus, because I get to hang out 
with all these cool, really interesting people.

Love and blessings,
Thomas



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