[Bigi] The monogamous bisexual man

[Bill L]

Hi Guys!

I'm a married bisexual guy, out to my wife and some friends, and monogamous 
by choice - no coercion involved.  I tend to think that the choice about 
whether or not to be monogamous really has little to do with sexual 
orientation...although there are certainly those who disagree with me.

I'm sexually fulfilled with my wife and figure I could feel the same way 
with a man as well.  I just don't think I need (and at this point in time 
don't want either) two or more sex partners.

Hugs,

Bill

>
>Hi Tony!
>
>At 02:12 PM 11/26/00 -0500, Tony Moulton wrote:
>>Would love to chat with other biguys. I live in Vermont and have a
>>boyfriend whom I love, but is far more attracted to guys on far less to
>>women. The few bisexual men I've met tend to follow the philosophy that we
>>cannot be monogamous and bisexual. I think that is a fallacy. Am I alone
>>in that belief?
>
>You are not alone.  Now, my credentials for agreeing with you
>might be a little suspect (I'm not monogamous myself), but I know
>a number of monogamous bisexual men, and most of them are quite
>happy folk, monogamous by choice, by preference.
>
>Moreover, I was a monogamous bisexual man for many years.  My wife
>and I were involved for nearly fifteen years, ten married, when
>we started heading away from monogamy, and that process really wasn't
>that related to my bisexuality, although it did open up some avenues
>for exploration that I've been grateful for.  (We're still happily
>married, just no longer monogamous.)
>
>>I am out to my friends and family. But they can barely comprehend and
>>accept that Im dating a guy, let alone that I am attracted to both 
>>genders.
>
>Although I don't run into it very often (I hang out in a lot of
>bi or bi-friendly spaces), I'm still always amazed that
>some people can't "comprehend" bisexuality.  It doesn't seem like
>that hard of a concept to grasp to me, and yet it seems very
>difficult and confusing for some folk.
>
>Cheers,
>
>--Joe
>
>
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