[Bigi] The monogamous bisexual man

[Alan]

Hi folks, Tony,

Let's work on the term momogamy. When you say you are sexually
monogamous does that mean yo only have sex with your signifigant
other and no one else or do you mean that you're married and
only have opposite sex with your wife but have a boyfriend on
the side?

My definition of monogamy, and I'm definitely not, is someone
who has sex with just one person.

Can you be bi and monogamous. Sure, I know a couple of guys who
have been serially monogamous and bi. Over the course of a few
years they have had  both male and female partners, but never
more than one at a time.

Alan

 in that you 
--- Bill L <tklwrite@hotmail.com> wrote:
> 
> Hi Guys!
> 
> I'm a married bisexual guy, out to my wife and some friends,
> and monogamous 
> by choice - no coercion involved.  I tend to think that the
> choice about 
> whether or not to be monogamous really has little to do with
> sexual 
> orientation...although there are certainly those who disagree
> with me.
> 
> I'm sexually fulfilled with my wife and figure I could feel
> the same way 
> with a man as well.  I just don't think I need (and at this
> point in time 
> don't want either) two or more sex partners.
> 
> Hugs,
> 
> Bill
> 
> >
> >Hi Tony!
> >
> >At 02:12 PM 11/26/00 -0500, Tony Moulton wrote:
> >>Would love to chat with other biguys. I live in Vermont and
> have a
> >>boyfriend whom I love, but is far more attracted to guys on
> far less to
> >>women. The few bisexual men I've met tend to follow the
> philosophy that we
> >>cannot be monogamous and bisexual. I think that is a
> fallacy. Am I alone
> >>in that belief?
> >
> >You are not alone.  Now, my credentials for agreeing with you
> >might be a little suspect (I'm not monogamous myself), but I
> know
> >a number of monogamous bisexual men, and most of them are
> quite
> >happy folk, monogamous by choice, by preference.
> >
> >Moreover, I was a monogamous bisexual man for many years.  My
> wife
> >and I were involved for nearly fifteen years, ten married,
> when
> >we started heading away from monogamy, and that process
> really wasn't
> >that related to my bisexuality, although it did open up some
> avenues
> >for exploration that I've been grateful for.  (We're still
> happily
> >married, just no longer monogamous.)
> >
> >>I am out to my friends and family. But they can barely
> comprehend and
> >>accept that Im dating a guy, let alone that I am attracted
> to both 
> >>genders.
> >
> >Although I don't run into it very often (I hang out in a lot
> of
> >bi or bi-friendly spaces), I'm still always amazed that
> >some people can't "comprehend" bisexuality.  It doesn't seem
> like
> >that hard of a concept to grasp to me, and yet it seems very
> >difficult and confusing for some folk.
> >
> >Cheers,
> >
> >--Joe
> >
> >
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