[Bigi] The monogamous bisexual man - Definition

[Bill L]

Good point Alan - which is why my wife prefers to use the term "sexually 
exclusive relationship" because she feels it is more precise than 
monogamous.

Bill


>From: Alan <alan_w@yahoo.com>
>To: bigi@commonhouse.net
>Subject: Re: [Bigi] The monogamous bisexual man
>Date: Mon, 27 Nov 2000 06:13:00 -0800 (PST)
>
>Hi folks, Tony,
>
>Let's work on the term momogamy. When you say you are sexually
>monogamous does that mean yo only have sex with your signifigant
>other and no one else or do you mean that you're married and
>only have opposite sex with your wife but have a boyfriend on
>the side?
>
>My definition of monogamy, and I'm definitely not, is someone
>who has sex with just one person.
>
>Can you be bi and monogamous. Sure, I know a couple of guys who
>have been serially monogamous and bi. Over the course of a few
>years they have had  both male and female partners, but never
>more than one at a time.
>
>Alan
>
>  in that you
>--- Bill L <tklwrite@hotmail.com> wrote:
> >
> > Hi Guys!
> >
> > I'm a married bisexual guy, out to my wife and some friends,
> > and monogamous
> > by choice - no coercion involved.  I tend to think that the
> > choice about
> > whether or not to be monogamous really has little to do with
> > sexual
> > orientation...although there are certainly those who disagree
> > with me.
> >
> > I'm sexually fulfilled with my wife and figure I could feel
> > the same way
> > with a man as well.  I just don't think I need (and at this
> > point in time
> > don't want either) two or more sex partners.
> >
> > Hugs,
> >
> > Bill
> >
> > >
> > >Hi Tony!
> > >
> > >At 02:12 PM 11/26/00 -0500, Tony Moulton wrote:
> > >>Would love to chat with other biguys. I live in Vermont and
> > have a
> > >>boyfriend whom I love, but is far more attracted to guys on
> > far less to
> > >>women. The few bisexual men I've met tend to follow the
> > philosophy that we
> > >>cannot be monogamous and bisexual. I think that is a
> > fallacy. Am I alone
> > >>in that belief?
> > >
> > >You are not alone.  Now, my credentials for agreeing with you
> > >might be a little suspect (I'm not monogamous myself), but I
> > know
> > >a number of monogamous bisexual men, and most of them are
> > quite
> > >happy folk, monogamous by choice, by preference.
> > >
> > >Moreover, I was a monogamous bisexual man for many years.  My
> > wife
> > >and I were involved for nearly fifteen years, ten married,
> > when
> > >we started heading away from monogamy, and that process
> > really wasn't
> > >that related to my bisexuality, although it did open up some
> > avenues
> > >for exploration that I've been grateful for.  (We're still
> > happily
> > >married, just no longer monogamous.)
> > >
> > >>I am out to my friends and family. But they can barely
> > comprehend and
> > >>accept that Im dating a guy, let alone that I am attracted
> > to both
> > >>genders.
> > >
> > >Although I don't run into it very often (I hang out in a lot
> > of
> > >bi or bi-friendly spaces), I'm still always amazed that
> > >some people can't "comprehend" bisexuality.  It doesn't seem
> > like
> > >that hard of a concept to grasp to me, and yet it seems very
> > >difficult and confusing for some folk.
> > >
> > >Cheers,
> > >
> > >--Joe
> > >
> > >
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